【032】I Made a List of My Ideal Partner and Found Him at Work! A Love Success Story from a Woman in Her Late 30s

H, a woman in her late 30s who had been in a fruitless relationship with an already-taken man for 3 years, decided to join a matchmaking agency. While doing so, she created an “Ideal Partner List.” Three months later, a coworker confessed his feelings to her—and he matched her list perfectly.

Three Years of a Fruitless Relationship

H is a woman in her late 30s who had been dating a man who already had a girlfriend for three years. At first, they were blissfully happy and exchanged messages frequently. But one day, he suddenly said, “Don’t send me messages so often.”

“He seemed happy when I sent them, and I hadn’t changed how often I messaged,” H recalls, feeling shocked. Then the COVID-19 pandemic hit, and they were hardly able to see each other.

When she said, “Marry me,” he responded, “I can’t.” Finally, she gave up.

Life Moves Forward with Matchmaking Agency Enrollment

H’s mother had been recommending she join a matchmaking agency for two years. She had refused because she loved him, but this year work became incredibly busy, and she found herself thinking, “It would be nice to have someone I love waiting for me when I come home.” That’s when she finally decided to join.

When she enrolled in the matchmaking agency, H faced herself seriously.
“What kind of person do I actually like?”

And that’s when she created her “Ideal Partner List.”

The “Greedy” Ideal Partner List

Here’s part of the list H created:

• Handsome
• Intelligent
• We can communicate well
• Lots of physical affection
• We enjoy the same things as pleasurable
• Good singer
• Takes me on international trips / speaks fluent English
• Healthy / lean and muscular
• Carries me in a princess carry

As for the “princess carry” in particular, H admits, “I thought, ‘Well, that’s almost a dream—there’s probably no one like that—but I might as well write it down if that’s what I want.'”

H thought of herself as quite tall and on the heavier side. She knew it might be unrealistic, but she wrote it down as her ideal anyway.

Her Ideal Person Was Close By

The matchmaking agency dates were one disappointment after another. Work became even more stressful, and H found herself increasingly cornered. It was a six-years-younger coworker who noticed her struggling and asked, “Are you okay?”

Starting around June, the two began exchanging messages frequently, and H gradually began to think, “This person is really nice.” But at first, it was just a faint feeling.

“He’s six years younger than me, and I’m divorced—I’ve been married before. He’s single with no marriage history. I genuinely thought there was absolutely no way he would see me as a romantic interest.”

She was also careful about his messages, worried about any potential harassment.

A Love-Filled Life with a Partner Straight from the Ideal List

In July, the two started going out for drinks together, and a few days after having a great conversation, he confessed: “Will you be my girlfriend?”

Once they started dating, she realized he matched her ideal list almost perfectly. Especially the “princess carry”—because he works out, he actually does carry her and tells her, “You’re so light for me to carry.”

Here’s what H’s life is like now:

• She’s told “You’ve gotten even cuter since we started dating” roughly every other day
• He’s always trying to touch her—holding her hand or supporting her on escalators
• He gives her an arm pillow when they sleep
• They spend more than six days a week together

“I’m loved by someone I adore, we gaze into each other’s eyes, and no matter how much I contact him or how much time we spend together, he adores me. He accepts and loves me exactly as I am,” H says.

H’s Shift in Consciousness

H studied the subconscious mind and made a point of “throwing away” her ego.

“At first, I didn’t believe that ‘if you think it, it becomes true.’ I kept looking at the reality in front of me thinking, ‘But it’s not happening,’ and even when I made a decision about something, I’d think, ‘It still won’t happen.'”

But as she watched videos over and over, “the Meguru-san and Ruru-san in my mind started saying things like, ‘That’s just trash thinking’ or ‘That’s your ego,’ which helped.”

The big shift was that even when “but” and “however” came up, she stopped dealing with each one.

A Message to Our Readers

H sends this message to anyone in a similar situation:

“You’re already wonderfully amazing just as you are, so everything will definitely be okay. And the day will come when someone you love dearly cherishes and loves you. Even things you thought would absolutely never work out or never change begin to turn around.”

Your ideal person might be closer than you think. Once you make a decision about what you want, reality reflects it back to you. You’ve already made it work.