【066】The Reason She Got Back Together Wasn’t Her “2 Million Yen Reconciliation Efforts”—A Story About the Subconscious Mind and Your Own Axis

When you thought “I want to get back together,” what did you do?

You went to fortune tellers. You attended seminars. You studied how to respond to his texts to capture his attention. You searched for the “right actions” to change his feelings——.

For those of you who have had these experiences, I’d like to share one reconciliation success story with you today.

Why Her 2 Million Yen Reconciliation Efforts Didn’t Bear Fruit

K is a woman in her 30s. After breaking up with her boyfriend of two and a half years, she did everything she could to reconcile with him.

She spent nearly 2 million yen on reconciliation counselors, attended reconciliation seminars across the country, and purchased a 30,000 yen “sketchy book.” She frequently used phone fortune telling services and visited Meiji Shrine and Izumo Taisha multiple times a year.

For three years, she kept moving desperately.

But in the end, he told her “I have a girlfriend now, so don’t contact me anymore,” and everything came to an end.

K reflects on it this way: “I think I wanted reconciliation more than I actually loved him.”

Those were three years of trying to change her situation through “something external.”

Meeting a New Love at Her Transfer Location, Then Saying Goodbye Again

After a fresh start with her transfer, K met a new boyfriend. It was love at first sight, and they started dating.

But he carried wounds from a past divorce, and his feelings became unstable frequently. The words “I want to be alone right now” and “I don’t think I can make K happy as things are” became more common, and in January 2023, he ended their relationship.

He deleted the LINE app itself and severed his SNS connections. Even after the breakup, they had to work on the same floor, and even when she greeted him, he ignored her. When she talked about work matters, she only got “yeah” in response. These painful days continued.

“The One I Need to Face Is Myself”—She Made Her Decision

Here, K didn’t make the same choice as before.

“Seeing a reality that won’t change, I decided to stop tormenting myself any further.”

She stopped looking for answers outside herself and began days of facing herself.

At Homéren, we call this “taking care of yourself” self-love. It’s not a technique to manifest something, but the act of caring for yourself itself. When you have a foundation of self-love, it becomes easier to align with the belief (= the wish you’ve decided for yourself) of “being madly in love with him.”

What K practiced might seem simple on the surface.

• Staying overnight at hot spring resorts alone
• One hour of strength training and stretching daily
• Visiting different bakeries, catching late-night movie showings, solo road trips
• Keeping a gratitude journal (writing down three or more good things from the day every evening)

Furthermore, she plastered sticky notes all over her house. “Because you think it, it becomes so,” “He and I are madly in love,” “Whether it’s with him or not, I’m happy, so everything will definitely be okay”——she placed these on the kitchen walls, bathroom mirror, entryway, toilet, and by her bed.

How She Faced Her Ego

At Homéren, we call the automatically arising negative thoughts like “this will never work out” or “it’s impossible now” the ego. It’s a voice that emerges semi-automatically in reaction to real-world events, not your true self’s intention.

K faced her ego like this:

“The ego always tries to say unnecessary things from the shadows, so I glare at it and silence it. I just let it go in one ear and out the other—’yeah yeah, that’s my ego’—kind of thing.”

When the ego showed up, she ignored it and let it flow right through her. The more you engage with the ego, the bigger it becomes, but K masterfully kept brushing it off.

Exchange of Letters, Then Reconciliation

After steeling her resolve, changes began to happen gradually, and by September, he was talking to her again, saying things like “Did you watch that anime? It’s interesting, you should watch it.”

Since he didn’t have SNS, letters were their only means of communication. After about a month of exchanging letters, when K texted him saying “I’d like to talk slowly,” he replied “Then let’s meet at 8:30 tomorrow at the usual place.”

In December, he asked her “Want to go on a trip together next month?” He embraced her, and they got back together.

K says: “I realized that it’s not special people who achieve reconciliation, but rather that when you face yourself, you can create the world you desire.”

Summary: What Drew the Reconciliation Wasn’t “External Actions”

The reason her 2 million yen reconciliation efforts didn’t come true was because what she was facing was “him” and “external methods.”

The reason K achieved reconciliation this time was because she redirected what she was facing back to “myself.”

By deciding on a belief, taking care of yourself, and discarding your ego.
When you do that, reality reflects your belief——that is the true essence of manifesting love through your subconscious mind.

For K’s detailed experience, please watch the video.

📺 After steeling her resolve and thoroughly facing “myself,” reconciliation through an old-fashioned exchange of letters ❤