Reader Questions #16: He blocked me – did my intention fail?

Hello! This is Iruru.

You’ve made up your mind about what you want, but then something completely unexpected happens! Sound familiar?

Today I want to address exactly this kind of situation.

I’ve been following this blog’s videos and really committed to my intentions. I’ve been doing daily affirmations and other subconscious techniques that I enjoy. But recently, when I reached out to him, I discovered he had blocked me. I thought maybe it was a mistake, so I checked again a few days later – still blocked. I’m completely shocked. Did this happen because of my thoughts? I haven’t wavered from my intention since I set it, and I certainly never wanted this to happen.

But I decided what I wanted – this isn’t it!

You decided you wanted to be with him, but he blocked you instead. When this happens, it’s natural to think:

These thoughts are completely understandable.

On this blog, I always talk about how manifesting through your subconscious works on a simple principle: “you think it, so it happens.” “Thinking it” is just that – thinking.

All you need to do is decide what you want your relationship with him to look like and align your feelings with that decision.

But sometimes, while you’re doing this work, unexpected things happen – like thinking “I never imagined this scenario, yet here he is blocking me!”

These situations can absolutely occur, but I don’t believe it’s about “thinking wrong” or your intentions “not reaching your subconscious.”

There’s no “wrong” way to think. It’s still “you think it, so it happens” – sometimes you just experience manifestations of thoughts you weren’t consciously aware of having.

Remember: “Because I think it, it happens”

Him blocking you might be connected to your feelings about the relationship, or perhaps you’ve been carrying deeper beliefs like:

“At this rate, things will never work out between us. There’s no way he could ever love me.” Maybe those limiting beliefs manifested instead.

Even when the outcome looks different from what you consciously intended, you might recognize that somewhere deep down, you had been thinking these thoughts – and they showed up in your reality.
Sometimes what unfolds feels different from our “current” intentions because older, deeper thought patterns have already taken root and are playing out.

*Important note: If what’s showing up feels painful or unwanted, you don’t have to accept it as your final reality.

You never have to settle for something that doesn’t feel good. Your wellbeing comes first, always.

So what do I do now?

You might be wondering, “Okay, but what’s my next step?”

The solution is actually beautifully simple. When something like this happens and it’s not what you want, just refocus on what you truly desire. That’s it.

I used to get frustrated with myself when I seemed to manifest things I didn’t consciously want. I’d think, “There’s no way I wanted this! I never even considered this possibility!” If you’re feeling similarly frustrated, it might help to offer yourself some compassion for this experience.

Try acknowledging and accepting these feelings exactly as they are.

It’s perfectly okay to tell yourself, “Of course I feel frustrated when things don’t unfold as I hoped,” or “I’m tired of overthinking this, and that’s completely normal.” You’ve been putting in real effort, and this journey isn’t always easy. Please be gentle with yourself and recognize how hard you’ve been trying.

If the idea of “self-forgiveness” doesn’t feel right to you, don’t force it. Simply allow yourself to feel whatever comes up.

Want to find the root cause and fix it?

Some people notice patterns – like consistently attracting people who are already in relationships when they want true love. They wonder if there’s some deeper issue causing this pattern and want to understand why it keeps happening.

If this resonates with you, working with a therapist or counselor could be helpful.

A professional might help you uncover underlying patterns, potentially leading to greater self-awareness and peace. However, I don’t usually recommend this approach.

Here’s why: diving deep into these issues and analyzing them often leads to thought spirals that conclude “it’ll never work out” or feed your ego’s narrative that “it’s impossible.”

Rather than getting caught up in analyzing why unwanted things showed up, I suggest shifting your focus.

I believe it’s much more effective to simply decide to embody the state of already having what you want – like “being in a loving relationship with him.” Keep it simple and commit to living from that place of already having your desire fulfilled.