Reader Questions #23: He Won’t Break Up With His Girlfriend

Sarah’s Question

I knew he had a girlfriend when he started pursuing me hard, but I ended up falling for him and we began dating.
The problem is, he won’t break up with her.
Whenever we talk about her, we end up fighting, and I get so frustrated that I just start venting.
He’s living with his girlfriend, but says he can’t break up with her until she finds somewhere else to go. He claims he’s not in love with her anymore, but he’s worried about leaving her in a tough spot.
How can I get his girlfriend to break up with him faster?

If his girlfriend would just move out, we could finally be together.

On the surface, it looks like Sarah’s main obstacle is getting his girlfriend to find a new place and end their living situation.

Love feels messy when multiple people are involved, but if you want to manifest your subconscious desires, it’s actually simple: believe it will happen, and it becomes your reality.

If you want to be with him, just decide that you’re going to be with him. It really is that straightforward.

Should she just wait and hope the girlfriend moves out soon?

So what’s your take on this situation?

“Well, in that case, I want her gone ASAP! She should move out immediately, end their living arrangement, and then he and I can finally be together!”

I totally get why you’d want that, but here’s the thing:

Your subconscious desires manifest because you believe they will.

That means you need to decide what you want your reality to look like, regardless of current circumstances. Sure, her moving out might seem like the logical next step, but you don’t need to figure out the how. Let your subconscious mind handle all the details.

Because if “He and I are madly in love!” is already your reality,

then maybe she moves out, or maybe he suddenly leaves her to marry you instead.

When you’re manifesting through your subconscious mind,

I strongly recommend letting your subconscious mind handle the process.

If you decide to make it happen through your own actions, then yes, you need to think through every step. But when you’re trusting your subconscious mind, you don’t need to worry about the how at all.

Actually, obsessing over the process can work against you because it suggests you don’t believe you can go straight to your desired outcome. It might even force you to take the long way around. I recommend letting your subconscious mind handle everything and simply embody the person who already has what they want.

Even if I’m with him, I still hate that he has a girlfriend!

“So you’re saying I should just focus on being happy with him? But I absolutely can’t stand that he has a girlfriend!!!”

Some people think, “I don’t want to be lovey-dovey with him while he still has a girlfriend!” But when you truly decide to be in a loving relationship with him, does his girlfriend exist in that reality? Probably not. If you’re constantly worried about his girlfriend and always wondering what she’s doing or thinking, it means you’re not living in your desired reality yet. Staying focused on her might actually keep this situation going longer.

So for now, put his girlfriend completely out of your mind and focus only on being blissfully happy with him.

No matter what’s happening now, keep your eyes on what you want to create.

It’s tough to see your love life clearly when you’re in the middle of it, and with multiple people involved, everything feels incredibly complicated. But if you want to manifest your desires through your subconscious, all you need to do is “believe it will happen.”

This principle doesn’t change no matter what kind of love situation you’re dealing with.

And your decision should always be about the future—“what you truly want to create.”

 

Even when you feel frustrated or anxious that he’s not doing certain things for you, don’t get stuck on those small irritations right in front of you. Always keep your focus on your end goal and embody the person who has already achieved it.

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