Should I Stop Going to Reunion Shrines to Manifest My Ex Back?
Title: Q&A #24: Should I stop visiting reunion shrines for manifestation?
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In this series, we answer questions from our blog readers, YouTube viewers, and Voicy listeners by choosing ones that we think will help many people. (We’ve adjusted the details to protect everyone’s privacy)
Hello, it’s Iruru. Welcome back to our Q&A series!
Today’s question comes from one of our Voicy listeners. We’re talking about “visiting shrines known for reuniting couples.” I think many of you will find this relatable.
Our question is from N, who wants to get back together with someone special and finds real comfort in visiting shrines famous for helping couples reunite. But after following our content and learning about how the subconscious mind works—that “you attract what you believe”—they’re starting to have some doubts about their shrine visits.
N: I want to get back together with him.
When I visit shrines that are known for helping couples reunite and buy protective charms, I feel so much peace.
But after watching your videos, I’m starting to question myself.
You teach that we attract what we believe. If I truly believe he’s in love with me, then we will be in love. But then,
if I already believe we’re in a loving relationship, why am I still going to reunion shrines? Doesn’t going to a reconciliation shrine mean I still think we haven’t gotten back together yet?
Should I stop visiting reunion shrines and go to marriage shrines instead, or maybe not visit shrines at all?
I used to visit shrines all the time too.
If I really believe I’m already in a loving relationship with him, why would I need to visit a reunion shrine?
In other words, am I going to reconciliation shrines precisely because we haven’t reconciled yet?
Should I switch to marriage shrines, or avoid shrines altogether?
N’s question really gets to the heart of things.
I think my own experience might help here, since I used to visit shrines quite regularly.
I always told myself I was going to express my commitment and gratitude, not to beg for something. I wasn’t there to make requests.
For a while, I was going almost every month at the start of each new month. But looking back, I think I might have become a bit too dependent on those visits.
I’d think things like, “I went to the shrine this month, so everything should work out,” or I’d feel crushed when things didn’t go well despite my shrine visits.
During that time, I claimed I was setting intentions and affirming my loving relationship with him, but honestly? I hadn’t actually achieved that inner knowing yet. Those shrine visits might have actually reinforced my doubts that it wasn’t happening.
If it helps you become who you want to be, go for it!
What about your situation, N? You mentioned that buying charms and visiting reunion shrines brings you peace, right?
If these visits help you become the version of yourself who has already reconciled and achieved what you desire, then I think that’s absolutely perfect.
Because the law of the subconscious mind is simple: “You attract what you believe.”
The most important thing is to “choose your thoughts.” Once you can do that, just pick actions that feel good to you.
If visiting shrines is one of those feel-good actions, then absolutely go!
Think about it—shrines are usually surrounded by beautiful nature, and those historic buildings have such a peaceful, sacred atmosphere. Being in a place like that can be incredibly refreshing for your spirit.
Once you’ve chosen your thoughts, your inner work is done.
After that, I hope you’ll make choices that lift your heart. If shrine visits do that for you, then why not embrace them?
N, thank you for such a thoughtful question! Iruru
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