【064】He Said “I Hate You, I Never Want to See You Again”—How K Reconnected Through Her Subconscious Mind and Self-Love, Finding Her Way Back to Her Own Center

“I hate you, I never want to see you again.” Those were his words. Now, every Friday night, he takes the shinkansen to see her.

This is the reconciliation story of K (in her 30s), shared with the channel Homéren, which focuses on manifesting love through the subconscious mind and self-love.

The reason she could reconcile wasn’t through technique or games. It was simply this: she turned her awareness back to herself.

What Was Happening to K

K had been friends with him for eight years before they started dating for two years. She describes herself back then as “full of ego.”

“Ego,” a term used by Homéren, refers to thought patterns that react semi-automatically to things that haven’t even happened yet. “No message = he’s with another woman.” “He doesn’t ask to see me = he’s not serious.” K was constantly swayed by these kinds of thoughts.

Eventually, she fell for someone else and ended things, then went through another breakup. When she reached out to him, they got back together easily—but it lasted only two months. He told her she was “annoying, hateful, and he never wanted to see her again.”

At the same time, she was transferred at work and had to move three hours away by shinkansen from his city.

The Turning Point: The Decision to Focus on Herself

By all appearances, it was completely over. But K made a decision right then:

“If he’s gone, there’s no point in continuing to wonder ‘what if’ about him. Before I love anyone else, let me turn my attention to myself for once.”

She didn’t give up on him. She simply started taking her own wellbeing seriously.

Here’s what K practiced:

• Every morning, meditating to calm her breath and focus on the present moment
• Writing words of self-praise in a diary app and rereading them sometimes
• Putting her phone away and slowly, mindfully enjoying delicious food
• Blocking out all negative information (distressing news, hateful comments, etc.)
• Exercising
• Treating herself as a “delicate crystal”

These weren’t “steps” to make her romantic wish come true. They were simply things K did for herself, accumulated over time.

“I Am Worthy of Love”—Reclaiming That Foundation

K had always disliked herself, carrying a thought pattern of “someone like me can’t possibly succeed.” But one day, she realized something:

“I’ve failed so much, hurt people and been hurt, cried and fallen apart many times. And yet this self of mine—I’ve been there with myself the whole time, supporting me becoming happy.”

In that moment, as K describes it, “overwhelming love washed over me and I couldn’t stop crying.”

At Homéren, “self-love” is taught as “cherishing yourself.” Boiling water, slowly eating something delicious—all of it can be self-love. It’s not a method for achieving something; cherishing yourself is the goal itself.

What K reclaimed in those six months was precisely this feeling.

The Reconciliation—”Even if He Rejects Me, My Worth Doesn’t Decrease One Bit”

Once K’s sense of self had stabilized, she reached out to him: “Let’s hang out sometime. Want to go grab something delicious together?”

She carried one belief: “Even if he rejects me, my worth doesn’t decrease one bit.”

He responded right away, and for a long weekend: “Maybe I’ll come visit you.” The exact message K had imagined in her mind arrived word for word.

After enjoying the long weekend together, the day before he was meant to leave, he said: “I was worried you’d disappear from my life again, but I want to be with you.”

This was about a year and a half after he’d told her he hated her and never wanted to see her again.

In Summary—When She Found Her Way Back to Herself, Reality Shifted

What we can understand from K’s story:

• She shifted from being swept up in her anxiety about him and her ego, and turned her awareness back to herself
• Through consistently cherishing herself, she reclaimed the foundation that “I deserve to be happy”
• When she acted from the belief that “rejection won’t change my worth,” reality began to move

It’s not about “how do I make him come back?” but rather “where do I direct my attention?”

Homéren calls this “deciding your thoughts.” Thoughts come first; reality simply reflects them. K’s story embodies this truth perfectly.