【063】No Dates for 10 Years → He Appeared in Just 1 Month After I Made My Decision | Love Manifestation Through the Subconscious Mind

“For some reason, I only meet married men.” “For some reason, I’m not seen as a woman.” — If you’ve been in a situation like this for years, it might not be coincidence.

Today’s story features T-san, a woman in her late thirties working in healthcare. After breaking up with her boyfriend of 6 years, she went over 10 years without meeting anyone she could develop a romantic relationship with. Let me share the real reason behind this, and the remarkable shift that happened in just 1 month.

T-san’s 10 Years — The Real Reason She Had No Encounters

Even though T-san worked in an environment where she met many people, the ones she connected with were always married, engaged, or saw her as “not a woman.”

At that time, T-san interpreted it this way:

“I’m immature as a person, so God is protecting me by keeping romance away. Romance is still too early for me to achieve my life’s theme of spiritual growth.”

But T-san later realized this was an interpretation made by her ego (the part that reacts semi-automatically to events).

Since childhood, T-san held a strong belief: “I must be able to live alone.” In the world of the subconscious mind, thoughts come first, and reality simply reflects them. Her thought of “living alone” had been completely blocking out the reality of being loved.

Going to a Street Mixer at 38 — After Being Called “Old Lady” and Despair

T-san attended a street mixer for the first time at 38, where someone called her an “old lady.”

But T-san shifted her perspective. “I just need to meet men who don’t call me old lady,” she thought, and attended a wine mixer for people 40 and up. She got a boyfriend for the first time in 10 years.

But after about six months, T-san realized something: “Just because my boyfriend is older doesn’t mean he has compassion or leadership skills.” She chose to break up before a year had passed.

Even though it was her first boyfriend in 10 years, she calmly examined what she truly wanted. This decisiveness led to what came next.

Meeting Homéren — Discovering “How I Was Treating Myself”

Around the time of the breakup, T-san discovered Homéren. What she realized there was not about external circumstances, but “how I was treating myself.”

“I realized I had been hardest on myself and had never treated myself as a woman. I thought I had no value unless I was young, strong, smart, cute, cheerful, and humble — I kept listing what I couldn’t do and never acknowledged myself. I refused to accept my weaknesses, and I thought expressing femininity was wrong.”

The “self-love” that Homéren teaches is not about buying expensive things or doing something special. It’s about treating yourself with care and acknowledging your true feelings. It’s about not judging as selfish your real desire to be loved. This became T-san’s foundation.

“Making the Decision” — The Heart of Love Manifestation Through the Subconscious Mind

The day after breaking up with her boyfriend who was 10 years older, T-san “made a decision.”

“I set it as: I am living being called a goddess, my destiny, a treasure, someone he’ll cherish for life.”

The way Homéren teaches love manifestation through the subconscious mind is to “decide on a thought” — like “being deeply in love with him.” There are no steps or procedures. You simply “think” it yourself. That’s all.

Furthermore, T-san created a specific list of her ideal partner: calls me lots, wants to get married, values the subconscious mind, loves my smile — she wrote down detailed, greedy specifications.

One Month After Making the Decision — Started Dating That Very Day

One month after making her decision, T-san met a man at a wine mixer and started dating him that same day. He matched almost everything on her ideal partner list, except for height.

T-san reflected on it this way:

“I wondered what those 10 years without a boyfriend were all about. I realized I’d been performing some mysterious spiritual practice for 10 years.”

Those 10 years weren’t a trial or preparation period. She had simply been holding onto the thought of “living alone.” Once she changed her thought, reality shifted immediately.

T-san’s Unique Practice — Messages to Herself

T-san had a distinctive practice. Living in a hotel five days a week, she thought, “If I had a boyfriend, wouldn’t I leave him notes like an exchange diary?” So when she left for work, she would write herself messages about how hard she worked that day.

“Actually, the boyfriend I have now sends me the exact same messages every day via LINE — the same ones I used to write to myself back then.”

By acting as someone who was “already succeeding,” reality reflected that back to her.

Summary: Even During the Years Without Encounters, Her Thoughts Were Creating Reality

What T-san’s 10 years teach us can be summarized like this:

• Behind the reality of “no encounters,” there is always a root thought
• “How I treat myself” reflects back as how others treat me
• The moment I decide as a thought that “I deserve to be loved,” reality begins to move

T-san’s comment was simple: “Once I found Homéren, I felt secure.”