When One-Sided Love Hurts, I Decided to Make Myself Happy and My Reunion Dreams Came True | Manifesting Love Through the Subconscious Mind【056】

“Thinking about him only brings me pain”——if this is where you are in your one-sided love, this article is for you. Based on a success story from M, who reached out to ほめ♡レン, I want to share with you about understanding your subconscious mind and your relationship with yourself.

The More Coldly He Treats Me, The More I Chase Him

The man M met during the pandemic was kind at first. But as they continued texting every day, his attitude grew colder and colder. When she expressed wanting to see him, he’d refuse with COVID as an excuse—yet he was meeting other people.

Shocked, M obsessed over dating techniques and “how to make your crush chase you.” She watched over 300 Homéren videos, watching each one at least three times. She tried to follow every rule about what to do and what not to do.

But he reached the point of saying, “If you keep contacting me, I’ll block you,” and M was reaching her mental breaking point. Still unable to give up, she kept trying to get back into his good graces.

Many of you have probably been in a situation like this. The harder you try, the worse things seem to get. You’re studying the subconscious mind, so why isn’t it working? That frustrating feeling.

“Right Now, In This Moment, I’m Not Happy At All”—A Breakthrough Realization

In the latter half of 2022, a turning point came for M.

In one moment, she realized something: “Right now, in this moment, I’m not happy at all. What should be my most precious connection is becoming my greatest source of suffering.”

What’s crucial here is that M shifted her focus from “how to fix him” to “myself in this moment.”

At ほめ♡レン, we explain manifesting love through the subconscious mind from three perspectives: intention, ego, and self-love.

• Intention: Deciding for yourself that “I will be in a loving, blissful relationship with him”
• Ego: The semi-automatic reactions to events, like “no contact means it’s impossible”
• Self-love: The foundation that makes it easier to set your intention. Taking care of yourself.

M realized that her obsession with him was being reinforced by her ego, and that she hadn’t built any foundation of self-love at all.

“I Have a Responsibility to Make Myself Happy”—She Made Her Decision

At this point, M made a major decision.

“I have a responsibility to make myself happy. This man is not what I need right now.”

She spoke it aloud, canceling her order to the subconscious mind: “I don’t want a man like that. I’m canceling this order, please.”

Immediately after, he reached out saying, “I want to stop all contact with you,” and the relationship ended. M accepted it without hesitation.

After that, M focused entirely on “making myself happy in this moment.”

• When tired, she went to bed early
• She ate the foods she craved
• She went places she wanted to go
• When she wanted to cry, she cried
• She treated herself like a dear friend

“This snack I love—maybe I should save it for tomorrow because it’s wasteful.” “I want to go now, but I have work early tomorrow so maybe I’ll go home instead.”——She stopped these small acts of putting off her own happiness one by one.

When I Focused on Myself, I Became Irresistibly Attractive

As M concentrated only on her own happiness, multiple men began reaching out to her one after another. She even received passionate confessions: “I’ve always loved you.”

After watching Cinderella on Amazon Prime, she made a powerful intention: “Living authentically while doing what I love, being loved by the person I love, enjoying satisfying friendships, career, dreams, health—a life of complete happiness.”

She even started making an ideal partner list, adding to it whenever she thought of something new.

Three Years Later, He Came Back Asking to Date Her

In 2023, that cold man reached out after three years of silence.

When they met, he told her: “I want to apologize for everything I’ve done. I realized how precious you are to me. I’ve never felt this comfortable with anyone.”

M’s response was quiet and unwavering: “If you’re not committed to this, then this is the last time. I won’t give you my time anymore, and I won’t go back to waiting for you. I’m going to see other people.”

He answered immediately: “Please, will you date me?”

From that point on, the man became exactly as M had envisioned—someone who treasured her deeply and loved her devotedly.

Summary: “Making Myself Happy Came First”

What strikes me most about M’s story is that she didn’t do anything to make him fall for her.

She faced the reality that “I’m not happy right now,” and made the commitment: “I have a responsibility to make myself happy.” That shift in consciousness moved her reality.

For the full details of her report, please watch the video. The message M herself sent us is truly touching.