【078】How T Finally Reunited with Her Ex After 2 Years, Even When Work Wasn’t Going Well | Real Stories of Subconscious Mind & Self-Love

“He blocked me on SNS, and we don’t have any mutual friends. I might never see him again.”

From this seemingly hopeless situation, T unexpectedly reunited with her ex through a matching app and achieved reconciliation after two years. Here’s her amazing success story.

If you’ve heard the terms “subconscious mind” or “self-love” but aren’t sure what to actually do about them—T’s story will definitely give you some practical guidance.

Contents

What Happened to T: From Being Blocked to Reconciliation Two Years Later
What Is “Self-Love”: 10 Concrete Actions T Put Into Practice
Why She Could Keep Going Even When Her “Ego” Was Acting Up
The Moment She Thought “It’s Okay If We Don’t Reconcile”
Conclusion: What T’s Story Teaches Us

What Happened to T: From Being Blocked to Reconciliation Two Years Later

T is in her twenties. She met a guy one year her senior through a random feature on a calling app and started dating him right after moving to the city.

He was her first boyfriend, but he became cold toward her after they started dating. After 10 months together, she was dumped. He unfollowed her on Instagram and essentially blocked her.

That same year, she quit her part-time job due to workplace harassment. Her acting career wasn’t going well either, and she felt like “everything in life was falling apart”—hitting rock bottom.

After spending a month at her parents’ house, she decided, “If I don’t change my environment, my life won’t change.” She applied for her first full-time job. At her new workplace, she performed so well that within a year, she became the department manager at the company’s largest nationwide branch.

Then in December 2023, during a break at work, she casually opened a matching app—and there he was.

It was just a photo of his back and a fake name on his profile. He didn’t recognize T, liked her photo, and matched with her just minutes later. After a museum date, they got back together in January 2024.

What Is “Self-Love”: 10 Concrete Actions T Put Into Practice

Here, let me briefly explain the concept of “self-love” that HOME♡REN holds dear.

Self-love means treating yourself with care and respect. It’s not a “method” or “technique” to achieve your goals—it’s about treating yourself thoughtfully through small daily actions.

T focused on “treating myself with care” and “acting in ways that build my confidence,” and consciously practiced these 10 things:

Say “no” when something feels wrong
Be conscious of what you truly want to eat and nourish both your body and heart
Use clean, beautiful underwear and towels, even when no one sees them
Set achievable goals and always keep promises to yourself
Buy things you really want, even if they’re a little pricey
Don’t hesitate to spend money on others
Carefully maintain the things you wear—bags, shoes, and accessories
Don’t let dishes pile up or trash accumulate
Let go of things you haven’t used in over a year
Do things you wanted to do with him—do them with friends first

None of these were about “getting him to notice you.” They were purely about carefully listening to your own needs. Noticing when a towel gets old. Honoring those small sensations. That was T’s self-love.

Why She Could Keep Going Even When Her “Ego” Was Acting Up

At HOME♡REN, we often talk about the “ego.”

Ego is semi-automatic thinking that reacts to events. It’s like “no message = it’s hopeless” or “I’ve been working on my subconscious for 3 months and it hasn’t manifested = something’s wrong.” These are just reactions based on past experiences and common sense, not your true self.

T says her ego was constantly acting up.

Every time she saw a reconciliation success story, she’d think, “So when is it my turn?” When reading about “releasing your desire,” she’d get confused: “Is that even possible? I’ve released it so many times—does that mean I won’t get it?” She’d go to famous love shrines every week, but he never contacted her.

Yet even while being swayed by her ego, T never stopped treating herself with care.

“On days when I felt okay, I tried not to think about the subconscious and just did things I enjoyed,”—that’s how T describes it. This was her way of not being consumed by her ego.

The Moment She Thought “It’s Okay If We Don’t Reconcile”

Around the time her confidence at work was growing, something shifted inside T.

“Even if we don’t reconcile, I’m confident enough now that I’ll definitely find an even more wonderful partner. It’s going to be fine.”

This wasn’t “giving up on him.” It was a state where self-trust became greater than anxiety.

In HOME♡REN’s philosophy, we say, “The moment you make a decision, you’re already a resident of that reality.” The reason T could feel this way was because of two years of accumulated self-love.

And then the next month, he appeared on her matching app.

Conclusion: What T’s Story Teaches Us

What stands out about T’s experience is that she didn’t aim for a “perfect state.” Her ego was constantly acting up. There were days full of anxiety. Yet she kept treating herself with care.

Here’s what T shared at the end:

“It’s okay even if your self-esteem is low. It’s okay even if you’re not confident about your appearance. It’s okay even if you have days when ego takes over. It’s okay even if you’re at rock bottom in life.”

Please check out the full story of T’s two-year journey in the video below.

📺 After the breakup when work also wasn’t going well, she thought “If I don’t change my environment, my life won’t change!” and got her first job. Then she started using a matching app, matched with him, and reunited after 2 years! #SubconsciousMind