From Convenient Relationship to Successful Reconciliation! A Surprising Story of How “Reality is Fiction” Changed the Past

A woman who hoped for reconciliation presented her case to her boyfriend, but ended up in a convenient relationship instead. Here’s the inspiring story of how M-san overcame this painful situation and achieved reconciliation.

Falling Into a Convenient Relationship After the Reconciliation Pitch

M-san, in her 30s, had been dating a man she met through a matching app for six months. However, three days before Christmas, she was suddenly dumped.

Reasons for the breakup:
– “Our personalities don’t match”
– “I can’t fall in love with you”

But she didn’t want to break up, so she desperately pitched her case to him.
“I think you like me, and you enjoy being with me”

As a result, instead of a proper reconciliation, a convenient relationship began.

The Painful Reality of a Convenient Relationship

M-san had expected reconciliation, but reality was harsh.

The reality of the convenient relationship:
– It became only physical
– She cried until she hyperventilated in front of him
– Her messages were left on read and ignored
– He only met her when it was convenient for him
– Phone calls were basically ignored

She believed “if it becomes only physical, it’s over—there’s no reconciliation.” Tormented by doubt about whether to keep seeing him or leave, she continued to struggle.

When she confronted him, they had a big argument, leading to a month of no contact. During that time, he even told her, “I never want to see you again.”

Meeting a New Way of Thinking: “Reality is Fiction”

In the midst of this hopeless situation, M-san began studying the subconscious mind. In particular, she learned to stop worrying from a video titled “That problem? If you give up on it, it’s instantly solved.”

What M-san practiced:
– Writing “I want to see him” in her notebook to organize her feelings
– Adopting the idea that “this reality is a lie and an illusion”
– Changing how she engaged with reality by treating it as “fiction”

Since M-san naturally enjoyed novels and movies and was prone to emotional involvement, this way of thinking resonated with her.

“I get emotionally invested while watching a movie, but once it ends and I return to reality, my world of ‘being madly in love’ remains unchanged”

She began to perceive reality with this sense.

Continuing to Practice “Forgiveness” While Wavering

However, M-san didn’t practice “reality is fiction” perfectly.

In M-san’s own words:
“There were days when I could think of it as fiction, and there were many days when I couldn’t at all, constantly fact-checking against the reality of him”

During those times, what she practiced was “relentlessly forgiving.”

The practice of forgiveness:
– “It’s okay that I sometimes fact-check against reality”
– “It’s okay to be madly in love with him”
– Accepting every version of herself

By continuing to speak to herself repeatedly, she became able to permit herself to be “madly in love with him” no matter what reality showed.

Rewriting the Past With a “What-If Box”

One particular technique M-san devised was inspired by Doraemon’s “what-if box.”

“What if we had never broken up back then?”

As she continued with this sense, she began to feel “which one is actually the real past?”

How to rewrite the past:
– For unfortunate events, think “what did I actually want instead?”
– Change the narrative to “what if it had happened that way?”
– Adopt the idea that “since it’s in my own memory, I can change it however I want”

The Surprising Reconciliation: The Moment the Past Changed

And then something miraculous happened—as if she’d shifted to a parallel world.

The moment of reconciliation:
“We just couldn’t break up after all, could we?”

These words came from his mouth.

What had been a convenient relationship had become as if it never happened. The month of no contact when he said “I never want to see you again” became like a mere illusion.

When she reached out a month later, they easily met up, and he never brought up that topic again.

Changes in Consciousness and Growth After Reconciliation

M-san felt she had changed dramatically before and after reconciliation.

Changes after reconciliation:
– She no longer wavers emotionally based on his words and actions
– Even when ego arises, she can ultimately decide what she truly wants
– She chose to ignore unwanted reality
– She barely feels anxious about message frequency anymore
– She understands that loneliness and feeling unloved are separate things

“Even when I feel lonely, I practice forgiving myself by saying ‘it’s okay to be madly in love’”

This ability to forgive herself became a significant growth point.

Conclusion: Your “Thoughts” Create Reality

From M-san’s experience, we can learn that reality is not absolute.

Key points:
– Because you think something, it becomes true
– “Thoughts” are the truth, and reality is merely a reflection of them
– No matter the situation, keep giving yourself permission to “be madly in love”
– Reality can be treated like fiction

Even if you’re suffering in a convenient relationship, even if you’re in no contact, that’s just reflecting the “thoughts” you’ve decided on. The real you is already madly in love.

Reconciliation isn’t difficult. Why don’t you, like M-san, cherish your own “thoughts” and start by forgiving every version of yourself?