Don’t Inherit Second Thoughts – Let Dante Do All the Thinking

I’m currently going through a breakup with the person I love.

Don’t you feel like there’s something to analyze and figure out from the past? I think…

The urge to find the cause or reason by asking “Why?” is

this

I think it’s wasteful in both senses.

Don’t Inherit Second Thoughts

In the first place.

“Why?”
“What happened?”

The reason you think this way is because your ego wants to be convinced.

“Ego” is a word that often comes up when talking about the subconscious mind, but Meguru believes that ultimately “ego = thinking.”

To put it more precisely,

“Ego = thoughts that automatically judge and interpret based on past memories and beliefs”

That’s what I think.

As long as we’re alive, we can’t eliminate our ego.
It will always show up, but when it does, you don’t have to engage with it.

As referenced in the bestselling book “The Practice of Not Thinking” by monk Ryunosuke Koike,

thinking can cause your brain to spiral out of control, so I recommend practicing the art of stopping your thoughts.

Meguru learned this concept from a monk:

Don’t inherit second thoughts.

This is the same principle as “not thinking.”

When it comes to love, you might have a “first thought” like “I don’t think that person will contact me.”
That’s fine, but then

And so on – not just second thoughts, but third thoughts, fourth thoughts… endlessly, your ego (thinking mind) starts running wild.
It’s okay to have that first thought, but try not to entertain the rambling thoughts that follow – that’s what “not inheriting second thoughts” means.

The point is, it’s natural for your ego (thinking mind) to show up, but if you let it run unchecked, it usually spirals in a negative direction, so you should practice not engaging with it, not worrying about it. That’s what this means.

Stop Thinking That Has No Value Now

However, I know there are people who are currently going through a breakup, or whose relationship isn’t going well, and they easily get caught up in their ego (thoughts).

You suddenly think, “I wonder what that person is doing right now,” and from there, within “seconds”

“I haven’t heard from them in a month.”
“What if they’re seeing someone new by now?”
“If we don’t reconcile quickly, it’ll be too late.”
“What if I contact them and they think I’m being annoying?”

And so on – an extremely intense “theater of delusion” begins.

In fact, when we think about the other person through speculation and assumptions, we can say it’s all delusion, but even if you understand intellectually that it’s a theater of delusions, your ego (thinking) is so strong that the restlessness, anxiety, and fear won’t go away! Some people say that.

But I want you to think about this logically.

Are these thoughts beneficial to you?
Not at all, right?
Why should you feel anxious or worried about something that doesn’t even exist? It’s actually kind of ridiculous, isn’t it?

However, since it’s none other than yourself doing this ridiculous thing – bringing up unpleasant things from the past into the “now” and continuing to fantasize about them, continuing to imagine future worries between you two – shouldn’t you just stop doing that? I think so.

If you’ve been unconsciously thinking thoughts that don’t benefit you, all you need to do is stop now.

Dante Doesn’t Look Happy

If you can’t stop thinking even after hearing this, I think you’ve become a “thinking supremacist.”
Because Meguru used to be like that too.

Even though I felt miserable, I couldn’t disconnect from my thoughts.
That’s because I believed that “thoughts are wonderful things.”

Meguru’s past boyfriends were all carefree people who only focused on the “now,” and if you think about it, they were wonderful people who were like perfect examples of subconscious mind living, but because it seemed like they didn’t think about anything at all, I always thought, “As humans, we should think a little more.” I should analyze things more (I should worry about things).”

But is it really necessary to worry and suffer from “the thoughts” you have?

When people whose love life isn’t going well start thinking, they tend to focus on the negative rather than the positive.

If it’s a “thought” that’s harmful to you, you don’t need it after all.

There’s no need for people who want to get back together with their partner to deliberately create a delusional theater titled “serious thinking” right now.

Dante is the only “thinker” we need.

Look at Dante.
He looks very serious, right?
No matter how you look at him, he doesn’t look happy – chin resting on his hand, hunched over.

“Thoughts” are automatic reactions, so people who have defined themselves as “no contact = it’s over” based on their life experiences and beliefs will automatically react when they actually experience “no contact.” They react with “This is awful,” “I can’t handle this anymore,” and “This isn’t going to work out.”

However, this automatic reaction is “just a habit,” so in that sense, I think it would be good to “consciously try to stop now” from indulging in “those thoughts” that don’t make you happy.

If you consciously stop doing it, it’s just a habit, and before you know it, the habit of negative thinking will disappear.

I would be happy if I could light up a warm light in someone’s heart

Let’s easily create a miracle

Meguru