Don’t Inherit Second Thoughts – Let Dante Do All the Thinking

I’m currently going through a breakup with someone I love deeply.

Ever catch yourself picking apart the past, desperate for answers? Here’s what I’ve discovered…

This endless “Why?” actually creates two huge problems:

It’s completely destructive.

Don’t Inherit Second Thoughts

Here’s the truth.

“Why did this happen?”
“What went wrong?”

You think this way because your ego demands explanations.

We talk about “ego” a lot when discussing the subconscious mind, but I see “ego” as simply thinking.

More precisely,

“Ego = the automatic thoughts that judge and interpret everything through old wounds and limiting beliefs”

That’s how I understand it.

We can’t completely eliminate our ego – it’s human nature. But when it shows up, you don’t have to engage with it.

Monk Ryunosuke Koike explores this in his bestselling book “The Practice of Not Thinking,”

showing how overthinking sends your brain into destructive spirals, making the ability to stop thoughts incredibly valuable.

This wisdom came from a monk:

Don’t inherit second thoughts.

This perfectly captures the “not thinking” principle.

In love, you might have an initial thought like “They probably won’t text me.” That’s totally normal, but then

And it snowballs – not just second thoughts, but third, fourth, fifth thoughts spinning endlessly as your ego takes the wheel. Having that first thought is human, but entertaining all the mental chatter that follows is where “not inheriting second thoughts” becomes crucial.

Your ego will always make an appearance – that’s normal. But when you let it run the show, it almost always goes negative. That’s why learning not to engage is so powerful.

Stop Thinking That Serves No Purpose

I get it – if you’re dealing with a breakup or relationship struggles, falling into these thought patterns feels almost unavoidable.

You think “I wonder what they’re up to,” and suddenly

“It’s been a month since they contacted me.”
“Maybe they’re already seeing someone else.”
“If we don’t reconnect soon, I’ll lose them forever.”
“What if I reach out and they think I’m desperate?”

A whole mental soap opera starts playing.

When we create stories about someone through guesswork and assumptions, it’s pure fiction. Even when you logically know it’s all made up, your ego is so convincing that the restlessness, anxiety, and fear feel absolutely real.

But let’s get logical for a moment.

Do any of these thoughts actually help you?
Not even slightly.
Why put yourself through anxiety over imaginary scenarios? It’s honestly ridiculous.

Yet here you are, doing exactly that – dragging painful memories into your present and creating elaborate fantasies about future disasters. Wouldn’t it make more sense to just… stop?

If you’ve been unconsciously thinking thoughts that hurt you, the answer is to stop right now.

Dante Doesn’t Look Happy

If you still can’t stop thinking after all this, you’ve probably become a “thinking addict.” I know because I was one too.

Despite feeling awful, I couldn’t step away from my thoughts. I was convinced that “thinking was valuable and necessary.”

All my past boyfriends were laid-back guys who lived completely in the moment. Looking back, they were perfect examples of subconscious mind living, but because they seemed so carefree, I always thought, “People should think more deeply. I need to analyze everything (I need to worry about things).”

But is torturing yourself with endless mental loops really necessary?

When people with struggling love lives start thinking, they always drift toward negativity instead of possibility.

If a thought hurts you, you simply don’t need it.

People who want to reconnect with their partners don’t need elaborate mental dramas disguised as “deep thinking.”

Dante can handle all the thinking for us.

Look at Dante’s famous statue. Does he look happy to you? Absolutely not – chin heavy on his hand, shoulders curved in deep contemplation.

“Thoughts” are automatic reactions, so people who’ve decided that “no contact = it’s over” based on past experiences will automatically panic when they experience silence. They jump to “This is terrible,” “I can’t handle this,” and “We’re definitely finished.”

But automatic reactions are just habits. You can consciously choose to stop feeding thoughts that make you miserable.

When you consciously stop feeding these patterns, the habit of negative thinking naturally dissolves.

I hope I can light a warm flame in someone’s heart

Let’s create miracles with ease

Meguru