【082】One-Sided Love Success Story | How A-san Got Serious with Her Subconscious Mind After Hearing “I Got a Girlfriend”

If someone you like tells you “I got a girlfriend,” most people would give up right there, right?

But A-san, who we’re featuring today, realized in that very moment that “what you think is what manifests,” and instead decided to get serious. Then the very next month, he confessed to her, and her one-sided love was fulfilled.

In this article, based on A-san’s experience, I’ll explain the relationship between the subconscious mind and love fulfillment in an easy-to-understand way.

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A-san’s Situation — A Seven-Year Love Gap and the Ego Running Wild

A-san is in her 30s and had been without romance for seven years. She fell head over heels for a man from a business partner in the same building, and through a work phone call, they grew closer. In November 2023, they finally went out for drinks together.

But after that night out, his messages became less frequent. Whenever A-san was alone, she’d read relationship advice books, reflect on her own behavior, and sink into despair. After a fortune teller told her “he doesn’t have feelings for you,” she hit rock bottom. From the moment she woke up until she went to bed, anxious thoughts wouldn’t stop.

In August 2024, she gathered her courage and invited him out for drinks. His response was: “I got a girlfriend, so it would be hard to go.”

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What is “Ego” — The Real Reason Things Don’t Work Out

At ほめ♡レン, we define “ego” as “semi-automatic thoughts that react to events.”

For example, A-san would react to his delayed replies by thinking, “He’s the type who forgets about someone once he’s got them” or “This was just for fun.” It wasn’t A-san’s fault — it was just information from her past experiences, relationship advice books, and fortune telling automatically playing out.

And later, A-san realized something: “I was told that if timing worked out… but I was covered by a large blanket of ego and couldn’t get out.”

Left unchecked, ego spirals out of control. But when you notice your ego, it’s also “a chance to decide your thoughts anew.”

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The Paper That Said “Serious” — The Moment She Decided Her Thoughts Anew

The shocking words “I got a girlfriend” became the catalyst for A-san to dive back into ほめ♡レン videos.

And that’s when it hit her: “I’ve always been thinking things won’t work out. I’ve only been imagining worst-case scenarios. I think that way, so that’s what happens!”

A-san wrote “Serious” in big letters on a piece of paper and taped it to her wall. She shifted her intention from “It would be amazing if we dated” to “I’m going to marry the man who loves me deeply,” and decided not to worry about the real-life him.

In the subconscious world, “deciding your thoughts” is the starting point for love fulfillment. It’s not about methods or techniques — “what you think” comes first. A-san received this truth as a lived experience through a shocking event.

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One Month of Being Loved — Self-Love as the Foundation

After deciding her thoughts anew, whenever ego showed up, A-san would say to herself, “But I am loved.” She started using a dating app, actively said yes to her friends’ invitations, and went to yoga. She accumulated evidence through daily actions that she was someone who is loved.

This is what ほめ♡レン calls practicing “self-love.”

Self-love isn’t a special act you do to make something happen. It’s the small daily choices — saying yes when invited, moving your body, taking care of yourself — all of it becomes the foundation of “me, someone who is loved.”

A-san shares: “Before leaving the house in the morning, I’d look in the mirror and say, ‘You’re cute today too,’ or whisper while walking, ‘Here comes cute me.'”

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The Next Month — He Confessed

In September, they bumped into each other by chance in the lobby on the way home from work. As they headed home together, they made plans to grab drinks again. On the way back, he said:

“It feels like we took the long way around, but we’re going to be together.”

One-sided love fulfilled ❤

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Summary — What This Experience Teaches Us

When we break down what A-san experienced, it looks like this:

• While her ego was running wild, reality was playing out exactly as her ego dictated
• The shock of “I got a girlfriend” became the catalyst to actually experience “what you think is what manifests”
• She wrote “Serious” on a piece of paper and taped it to her wall, truly deciding her thoughts anew
• One month of being someone loved, and then he confessed to her

Reading relationship manuals, relying on fortune telling, and still nothing working — all of those experiences functioned as “awareness of ego.” That’s what A-san’s report is about.

You can watch her full experience story in the ほめ♡レン YouTube video.

📺 He was the business partner she fell for at first sight. After he said “I got a girlfriend,” she finally experienced “what you think is what manifests.” She wrote “Serious” on paper and resolved to be worthy of love! Reality became uncertain, and her one-sided love was fulfilled! #SubconsciousMind