【083】I Can’t See My Crush Anymore… What Happened Beyond That Anxiety

“My crush at work quit his job, and I can’t see him anymore.”

We’re sharing the success story of K, who built a loving relationship with an adoring boyfriend for over a year after finding herself in that situation.

There was no dramatic turn of events, and she didn’t practice any special methods. Rather, a simple shift in consciousness—“using the waiting time for myself”—became the turning point for everything.

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K’s Situation: Her Crush Quit, and She Couldn’t See Him for Over a Year

K is in her 30s. In 2019, she met a senior colleague at work, and her one-sided love began. He was friendly and considerate, but their relationship never developed beyond “easy-to-connect-with” status. Two years passed with no progress, and then in 2021, he resigned.

After they stopped seeing each other, her thoughts drifted to him constantly—during her commute, on days off, whenever there was a spare moment. “I don’t even know how he’s doing. But I still want it to work out somehow”—she spent a year wrestling with that anxiety, frozen in place.

In 2022, she discovered ほめ♡レン and gradually began shifting her consciousness by playing her favorite videos like background radio.

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“Ego” Emerging Is Natural. The Real Issue Is How You Handle It

K reached out with this concern at the time: “Right after I set my intention, I feel positive and excited. But then something small happens, and my feelings slip back to the mindset of ‘it’s not manifested yet.'”

Let’s clarify what “ego” means here.

At ほめ♡レン, we call the negative thought patterns that automatically arise in response to events our “ego.” These are thoughts that react based on past experience and common sense—like “No contact means it’s impossible” or “We can’t see each other anymore, so I should give up.”

In her response to K, Iruru shared this: “An injury, something someone says to you—these are just events. It all comes down to how you, K, choose to handle the ego that arises from them.”

You’re the one who interprets an event as “it will never happen.” You’re also the one who can hold the thought “I’m in a loving relationship with him” regardless of circumstances. The choice is entirely yours.

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“If I’m Going to Wait Anyway, Let Me Do What I Love”—This Became the Turning Point

One day, K had a thought: “Instead of focusing entirely on waiting, what if I do the things I love while I wait?”

“I think that became my turning point,” K reflected later. “I used to remember him every time I had a free moment.”

Drawing, playing games, visiting theme parks—she reconnected with things that brought her joy outside of romance and threw herself into them.

In the context of subconscious mind × love manifestation, this is what we call “self-love.” Self-love isn’t using yourself as a means to manifest something; it’s simply valuing yourself. Whether it’s boiling water or immersing yourself in hobbies—it all becomes self-love.

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The Adoring Boyfriend with Shared Interests Appeared at Her New Job

After throwing herself into her hobbies, K changed jobs. At her new workplace, she gradually became closer to someone.

It started with casual conversation: “I’m thinking about buying this game.” Then one sentence connected them: “I bought it too.” In June 2023, he confessed his feelings, and they started dating.

More than a year into their relationship now, K shares this: “He has so many interests, so I’m learning so much from him. Every day feels fresh and exciting. We’re so genuine with each other—there are sides of ourselves we wouldn’t show anyone else—so I’m grateful to be his girlfriend.”

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What Matters Most in Subconscious Mind Manifestation of Love: Your State of Consciousness

K’s success story shows us that manifesting love doesn’t require a specific “method.”

In the subconscious mind × love manifestation approach, the principle is simple: “You become what you believe.” You decide on the thought “I’m in a loving relationship with him.” You let the ego that interferes with that thought pass through you without resistance. You use your waiting time to fill yourself.

The moment K thought “If I’m going to wait anyway, let me do what I love,” she was actually deciding on her intention all over again. Instead of sitting frozen in anxiety, she redirected her consciousness toward what made her feel whole. That alone set her reality in motion.

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Summary: When K Transformed Her Waiting Time into Fulfilling Time, Her Reality Shifted

• K spent over a year in anxiety after her crush became unreachable
• “If I’m going to wait anyway, let me do what I love”—immersing herself in her hobbies became her turning point
• At her new job, a junior colleague who shared her interests confessed to her, and they’ve been happily together for over a year

For more details about K’s success story, please watch the full video. You’ll definitely find insights about consciousness in her own words.

📺 I Couldn’t See My Crush Anymore and Felt Anxious. When I Decided “If I’m Going to Wait, I Might as Well Do What I Love” and Threw Myself Into My Hobbies, an Adoring Boyfriend Who Shared My Interests Appeared!