Hello, this is Meguru.
I’ve summarized in this blog what I talked about in the May edition of Voicy:
“In the end, it’s always you who chooses what to think.” ❤
The subconscious mind works this way:
As you think, so it becomes.
When applied to love, it means: if you think “we’re in love,” then you become in love.
So all you have to do is decide on the thought: “We’re in love.”
And the most important part is — it’s you who chooses that thought.
You are the one who thinks.
If you’ve been following Love Sync Attraction for a while, you’ve probably heard this a million times —
but it’s so important.
You decide: “We’re in love.” This is what matters most!!
You thinking “we’re in love” — that thought comes from you.
If you don’t think it, nothing can begin.
In that sense, it’s not an exaggeration to say:
The moment you think it, that becomes your reality.
You’re literally creating your life.
For example, let’s say you broke up with him but want to get back together.
But then a friend tells you, “He’s already over you.”
Or a fortune teller says, “You and he weren’t compatible.”
How would you feel?
Pretty crushed, right?
When someone says he’s over you, you might think,
“Then I must be useless to him now…”
Or if someone says you’re not a match,
“Does that mean I should just give up on getting back together?”
It stings either way.
Friends, fortune tellers, family, coworkers…
And even online articles like “The odds of getting back together are XX%” —
All of these are external voices.
And those external voices can really shake you.
They all sound so convincing.
Let’s say you see a post on X that says,
“Trying to get back with your ex is a waste of time,”
and it has thousands of likes.
How would that feel?
That would probably hurt, too.
You might start thinking:
“Wait, am I weird for still wanting him? Maybe I should just give up…”
“We’re in love” or “It’s over” — only *you* can decide.
But here’s the thing:
Who is the one thinking, “Maybe I should just give up…”?
That’s right — it’s you.
It’s also you who can think:
“Even if people say I’m weird for still wanting him, I know what I want.
So I choose to stay in the thought: ‘We’re in love.’”
It’s you choosing either way.
It’s you who decides:
“It’s over.”
Or,
“We’re still going to be together.”
No one else can make that call but you.
Even if external opinions push you toward ending it —
it’s still you who chooses to accept that and let go.
Or,
You can listen to others but still choose the path of love.
In the end, you’re always the one deciding.
Even if you feel tossed around by others’ opinions —
you’re still the one who made the final decision.
So even if you think,
“She said something awful — how could she!”
— at the end of the day, you are the one who decided:
“Well, if she says that, maybe I really should give up on him.”
Being aware of this is so important.
Even if you feel like you’re being constantly influenced by others,
the truth is:
You’re the one who chose to give up as a result of that influence.
That’s why you choosing what to think is incredibly powerful.
No matter what happens, you’re the one making the final call.
So once you realize that — that it’s always you who decides —
you’ll also start to see just how much power you actually have.
You choose what to think.
You’re always the one making the final decision.
That one insight alone?
Honestly, it’s life-changing.
In this episode, Meguru and Iruru talk together on Voicy.
