【067】When I Decided “I Will Make Myself Happy,” My Ex Came Back After 4 Months

“I’m trying to decide that I’m deeply loved, but somehow things just keep getting harder……”

Have you ever experienced something like this?

Today’s story features T, a woman who attempted to manifest love through her subconscious mind after breaking up with her boyfriend who was 8 years younger. However, instead of things improving, she actually felt more pain. She stepped away from Homéren and decided simply, “I will make myself happy”—and that’s when her popularity soared and her ex came back to her.

From the breakup to reconciliation took just 4 months.

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T’s Situation: An Age-Gap Relationship’s Natural Fade and Days of Anguish

T is in her 30s. She met her boyfriend, who was 8 years younger, through a workplace acquaintance, and they dated for 7 months. People around them said things like “an age gap really doesn’t matter”—they seemed so compatible.

But quietly, T carried anxiety. “He’s tall and smart. I’m not good enough for him. He’s going to leave me again,” she thought, creating problems that he had never even mentioned. Over time, he began to distance himself from her, eventually breaking up with her over the phone, and stopped responding to her messages. The relationship faded naturally.

“It was such a gradual distancing that I felt the breakup acutely day after day. I felt crushed by anxiety, and those were hellish times,” T recalls. She became so visibly distressed at work that colleagues worried about her. At home, she spent days crying.

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Why Does Trying to “Decide Your Thoughts” Become So Painful?

Around that time, T discovered Homéren on YouTube and learned about manifesting love through the subconscious mind.

To explain a bit: the “thoughts” that Homéren teaches are simple ones like “my boyfriend and I are in love” or “I’m deeply adored.” The idea is that simply deciding on this thought causes reality to mirror it back to you.

But something else exists at the same time: the “ego.” The ego is the automatic, semi-reflexive thinking that arises in response to events and situations—things like “he hasn’t contacted me → it’s impossible now” or “I’m not good enough for him → he’ll definitely leave me.” These thoughts have roots in past experiences and anxieties, and they come from a different place than your true intention.

For 2 months while T was trying to decide on the thought “I’m deeply adored,” her ego was simultaneously pushing back strongly. Her true intention and her ego were pulling at each other, causing her emotional ups and downs to become increasingly intense. This wasn’t a matter of trying in the wrong way—rather, when your ego is large and you try to force a thought, it becomes painful.

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The Turning Point: “I’m Tired. I Will Make Myself Happy”

Exhausted, T let go of all the subconscious mind information and Homéren, and decided on something simple:

“This is a waste of time. There is only now. I will make myself happy. I am the main character of my own life.”

She invested in her beauty, gave herself rewards, spent time with family, and began treating herself like a princess. Then she began to notice the warmth of her family and friends around her, and thought, “I’m actually incredibly blessed, aren’t I?”

By mid-August, a wave of popularity hit—multiple younger, tall men started approaching her. Yet strangely, her interest in romance had faded. Even when confessed to, nothing clicked. But then she thought softly, “Actually, I really do prefer him. He’s kind, a great cook, he’s the best.” It was such a light-hearted feeling, completely different from when she’d been suffering and chasing him.

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The Day After Visiting the Shrine, His Message Arrived

In October, a friend invited T to visit a shrine. As she was praying, she thought of him, and wished, “May I become happy. May he be well.” And in that moment, the sky opened up to a clear blue, and she felt from the depths of her heart, “I am blessed.”

The next day, on her commute, a message came through from him: “How have you been lately? I’ve been feeling guilty this whole time. Please give me a chance to apologize.”

When they met again after some time, T told him: “When we first started dating, I was making myself anxious without reason. I kept thinking you’d leave me, and I was being self-pitying without any real cause. I’m sorry.”

He replied: “I want to make you so happy you won’t even have room to feel anxious.”

They got back together without hesitation. And they’re still deeply in love now.

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Summary: “Making Myself Happy” Simplified My Thoughts

Looking back on T’s experience, here’s what we can see:

• In the pain after the breakup, her ego was pulling against her true intention
• When she switched to the simple thought “I will make myself happy,” the internal conflict disappeared
• As she treated herself like a princess in her daily life, her popularity increased and her ex came back

Sometimes, rather than desperately striving to make something happen, returning to the simple thought “I will make myself happy” is what moves reality. T’s experience teaches us exactly this.

For more details, please hear T’s own words in the YouTube video.

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