【100】A Decade-Long Reunion! When I Decided to “Make Myself Happy,” My Ex Came Back｜Manifesting Love Through the Subconscious Mind

“Maybe I could get back together with him,” you think, but somewhere deep down you cancel it out: “But it’s been 10 years… it’s probably impossible now.”

If you’re feeling this way, today I’d like to share a success story from Aさん, a woman in her 30s. After marriage, divorce, and a passionate love for her favorite musician, she reunited with her ex-boyfriend after 10 years.

Aさん’s Ten Years: Marriage, Divorce, and an Intense Love

Aさん started dating her senior from work in 2013. They were together for 1 year and 9 months, but they broke up in 2015.

After that, she dated and married someone else. However, the feeling of “not being loved” grew stronger and stronger, and in 2023, she initiated the divorce herself.

After the divorce, Aさん developed a passionate love for a certain musician. This was also around the time she discovered ほめ♡レン. However, her one-sided love gradually became painful. Every time she saw another woman in the musician’s life, anxiety would bubble up, and what should have been fun fan activities turned into a painful, unrequited love.

She Made the Decision to “Make Myself Happy”

At ほめ♡レン, we teach the concept of “making a decision.”

“Making a decision” means deciding from within yourself how you want to be—for example, “I’m going to be lovey-dovey with my partner” or “I’m going to make myself happy.” Not having someone else decide for you, but you making the decision yourself. That’s all it is.

One day, on her way home from a concert, Aさん made a quiet decision.

“I’m going to walk away from this pain. I’m going to treasure myself. I’m absolutely going to make myself happy, no matter what.”

She stopped following the musician, stopped going to concerts. She wore clothes she loved, went where she wanted to go, bought what she wanted, and got her nails done. She spent her days focused solely on making herself feel good.

She Kept Fulfilling Herself While Letting Her Ego Pass By

“Ego,” a term we use at ほめ♡レン, refers to thoughts that react semi-automatically to events. It’s reactions like “This won’t work anyway” or “He didn’t text, so it’s impossible now”—reactions different from your true inner feelings.

Aさん had plenty of ego come up. But she let it pass by or accepted it completely by saying “it’s okay to feel that way,” and kept returning to the thought of “I’m going to make myself happy.”

Then in November 2024, a mutual friend of hers and her ex was coming to Tokyo. Through the conversation, her ex came up, and thinking “I might be blocked,” she casually sent him a LINE message—and got an immediate reply.

Before She Knew It, They Were Reunited After 10 Years

From there, they texted every day, went out for drinks a week later, and started seeing each other twice a month.

He was even kinder than when they were dating, showing her lots of thoughtful gestures. Aさん says: “When I’m with him, I feel genuinely fulfilled for no reason at all. I thought I wanted the kind of love where you chase someone and feel that flutter, but I realized that’s not where my true happiness lies.”

About four months in, Aさん expressed her feelings. “Being with you just makes me happy. I want to be together again.”

He said “Let’s be together,” and they reunited after 10 years.

The Key Point: She Wasn’t “Aiming For” Reunion

Aさん herself says “I didn’t intentionally work toward getting back together.” She wasn’t trying to win her ex back; she was focused on making herself happy. As a result, her ex naturally came back to her.

“Facing myself and realizing that true happiness comes only after treasuring myself more than anyone else. That was the greatest gift from these past few years.”

These words from Aさん say it all.

Summary: What We Can See From Aさん’s Story

What emerges from Aさん’s 10-year journey:

• Even after the roundabout path of marriage, divorce, and passionate love, she ultimately arrived at one point: “making myself happy”
• The moment she let go of her painful one-sided love, she made the decision to “make myself happy”
• Without aiming for reunion and simply continuing to fulfill herself, the pull of fate after 10 years was set in motion

If you’re feeling right now that “I can’t see a future with him,” please watch Aさん’s full story in the video below.

📺 A Reunion After 10 Years! When I Decided “I’m Absolutely Going to Make Myself Happy,” Destiny Started Moving