【102】When I Gave Up on Getting Back Together with My Ex Who Blocked Me Completely, Four Men Confessed to Me in My Forties

“I’ve tried everything with the subconscious mind, but nothing worked.”

Despite thinking this, H decided to play a ほめ♡レン video. She was in her forties, on the heavier side, and waiting for reconciliation with her ex who had blocked her completely. Over the next year and a half, four men confessed their feelings to her, a handsome guy nine years younger pursued her, and she began dating a new boyfriend who absolutely adored her. Here’s that story.

H’s Situation: Long Distance and Complete Block, Without Even Knowing Why

H started dating a man four years her senior in May 2022 after meeting him at an artist fan meetup. When he moved, they became long distance, but she continued the relationship believing his words that “I’ll definitely come pick you up someday.”

She often held back to avoid fighting, and they decided to keep in touch “whenever convenient so as not to burden each other.”

But in April 2023, he suddenly texted “I’m tired of long distance” and blocked her on LINE and all social media. She couldn’t even ask why—everything was blocked. H says she cried every day.

Meeting ほめ♡レン: The Realization That “I Was Just Creating Stories in My Head”

In December that same year, H, who had been searching for reconciliation and subconscious mind videos on YouTube, found ほめ♡レン in her recommendations.

She thought “I’ve already tried everything about the subconscious mind and none of it worked,” but when she pressed play, she felt a jolt of recognition. The content was simpler than anything she’d seen before.

By “subconscious mind” here, we mean the idea that consciousness (our thoughts) determines reality first. ほめ♡レン emphasizes not methods or procedures, but rather “the state of consciousness”—simply deciding on thoughts like “my boyfriend and I are madly in love.”

What H realized was that “until now, I was just cycling through stories in my mind about him coming back.” She stopped chasing the real him and instead withdrew into her thoughts.

Practicing Self-Love: Replacing the “Ego” with Strengths

In ほめ♡レン, the “ego” refers to semi-automatic reactions to events. It’s like when something happens and you instantly think “He didn’t contact me → It’s hopeless,” reactions that come from past experiences and anxiety.

H found her ego especially active at night. “Maybe he’s fallen for someone else” or “Maybe my love was too heavy.”

Every time this happened, H would do something: replace those thoughts with her strengths. “The fact that I can still love someone even when we’re so far apart shows how much I care” or “That’s just how much I love him.” Even when she made mistakes at work or overslept, she’d accept herself completely: “That’s okay too, that’s who I am.”

This accumulation is what we call “self-love.” It’s not a technique to manifest results—it’s about cherishing yourself.

The Realization “I’m Okay Just As I Am” and the Changes That Followed

As H continued replacing those thoughts with her strengths, something shifted inside her. From “my boyfriend and I are madly in love” to “I’m attractive.”

Her mind became more spacious, and at work and in SNS communities, she started hearing things like “Being around H makes me brighter too” and “H gives me courage.”

Then in February 2024, four men suddenly confessed to her. One of them was a handsome guy nine years younger. She even received a marriage-proposal confession: “My dream was to marry someone bright.”

H describes herself as “on the heavier side and in her forties.” Yet none of that mattered. Her story makes it clear that attractiveness has nothing to do with body type or age.

The Call from Her Ex, and “Thank You for Those Beautiful Memories”

In early February 2025, her ex called for the first time in two years. An apology: “I’m sorry for suddenly disappearing.”

H says she had mentally rehearsed this moment countless times. But she realized something: she didn’t feel that heat anymore.

“Thank you for those beautiful memories. I hope you’re happy.”

With just those words, she hung up. She felt like two years of confusion had finally cleared.

Later that month, at an after-work gathering, she grew closer to a man from a different department she’d known by sight. They started dating in April. He later told her, “I always thought you were friendly and kind to everyone, but I figured you’d never look my way.”

Summary: What H Experienced

What strikes me most about H’s report is her words: “The real me didn’t do anything.” She didn’t try to do something to win back her ex. Every time her ego appeared, she kept replacing it—”that’s just the depth of my love”—and gradually cultivated the feeling that “I’m okay just as I am.” As a result, reality shifted.

For the full details of her success story, please watch the video.

📺 When I Practiced Self-Love and Realized “I’m Okay Just As I Am!”, Men Suddenly Started Confessing. My Ex Who Blocked Me Called, But I’m Now Dating a New Man Who Adores Me!